How I Dated a Model by Placing an Ad on Craigslist
I'm about to show you step by step how I dated a model by placing an ad on craigslist.com. I also met and dated a gorgeous 19 year-old college student and other attractive women using this very method. Obviously, the initial ad is very important and the follow-up e-mails and phone calls are very important as well. Please keep in mind that I didn't come up with this method. Others figured it out before me. Dave M. is a master at meeting women online and much of what I do is based on his method. He's much better at meeting women online than I am. You can read more about his method at Insider Internet Dating.
When I started to learn how to meet and date women, I was living in a small town with very few young, single women. I would drive to the closest city on weekends to practice my social skills, but when I couldn't, I'd practice meeting women through online ads. I got so good at meeting attractive women through online ads that it actually became rather boring. There's nothing like meeting a woman face to face and having interesting conversation on the spot, but for those who are interested in meeting women online, if you use this technique correctly you WILL go out with hotties.
How To Meet Women Online Step 1: COMPOSING THE PERSONALS AD
First the online ad. You might be thinking this is the time to mention you are a hopeless romantic and that you love walks on the beach and you'd be wrong. Instead, you want to come off as a complete and selfish jerk. I won't tell you what I wrote in the ad word for word. If I do that, I'll find a thousand copies of it all over craigslist and that won't be good for anyone. Be creative and be a jerk. At one point in the ad that landed the model, I write that I'm looking for a hot chick in a commited relationship for the purpose of making her husband/boyfriend crazy jealous and to milk money, jewels, car, and house from him. I volunteerd that I was very well endowed and could send women into shivering orgasms with my tongue. Make sure to mention that you will not settle for anything less than gorgeous. Also, insist on at least two pictures. Remember, you want to come of as a complete and selfish jerk.
How To Meet Women Online Step 2: THE FIRST E-MAIL
Model e-mailed me:
Intrigued by the cockiness (no pun) of your post.
I have never looked through the personals, but decided to check it out for a good laugh. No, really. I find Internet dating and personal adds ridiculous, and for the socially inept... having said that, my interests were piqued by your post. Someone with the audacity to have women "audition" for a place in his bed and whatever else, must be extremely egocentric- among other things, eh? Still, there must be goods involved- either that, or you're a real nutjob.
I am a 25 year old figure model- the catch? I'm an alternative model. This greatly reduces my available dating pool, though I am at no shortage, the boys/men are intimidated. I am not looking for a pussy boy, er!
5"4 100 lb -petite obviously.
Against my better judgment, I am including two pictures you have requested. If nothing else, you sound like a fun asshole to have a drink with.
What do I have to offer? Quite a fucking bit! I am intelligent, cute, caring, and take care of the people that are worthy.
Pictures? Of course, but craigslist wont let me send them, as the files are too large. I will send them to your direct email if that works.
My reply:
I know what you mean about Internet dating and personal ads--not "adds"
little-miss-spell-checker. I meet girls in bars and clubs, and the reason
I'm online is that a lot of them just aren't very smart; I'm a very picky
guy. I have met smart hotties, but they seem to be extremely rare, and I
want to see what the Internet has to offer. I must say that so far, I'm
pleasantly surprised by the quality of attractive, interesting girls who
have written.
You are older than most of the girls I go out with. That means you'll have
to be that much more exceptional. You didn't really convey anything special
in your e-mail. Tell me something excellent about yourself. Tell me
something you're passionate about. Why would I want to spend time with you?
Worst case? I bet you'd make a cool friend. For now I'll give you the
benefit of the doubt. Send at least two pictures.
Do you see what I did in this first e-mail? First I called her on her having misspelled "ad." I'm looking for beautiful girls who are smart, right? I have to be sure to convey that I am used to dating only the most gorgeous girls and that the fact that she's a model isn't enough to get my attention. I've also toned down the jerk a little. I'm still a jerk, but I don't use profanity and the e-mail is well-written. I'm not only picky with women, but I'm intelligent too--at least this is what I'm trying to convey without actually saying it. I told her she was older than most girls I date, which in my case is true, but if she'd been 19, I would have told her that she's too young and probably too immature for me. You get the idea right? You want to make her feel that she's just out of your reach. Then I challenge her to tell me something interesting about herself. You want her to chase you. You want her to try to persuade you into thinking she's good enough for you. Then at the end of the e-mail, I wrote that in case things don't work out, she seems like she'd make a good friend. A hottie's ego is too big to be put into the friend's zone. The friend comment also conveys that you are not afraid to let her go.
How To Meet Women Online Step 3: FOLLOW-UP E-MAILS
Model's reply:
Haha! Of course the one email I write, boasting of my intelligence, I miss-spell- never fails! 25 is old eh? Wow.
Well, I have never felt the need to "sell" myself before, and doubt I'll start now. I will gracefully bow out of the race for the smart guy with the big dick! I do wish you luck in your pursuit though; someone with your testicular fortitude deserves to be choosy, indeed!
I really think you could provide some interesting conversation, so if you also physically screen your potential friends (would not surprise me haha), I will include some pictures (what are small breasts amongst potential friends as well? Nothing, I say!)
Good luck,
In this e-mail, she attached four professionally-shot photographs from her modeling portfolio. Two of them were nudes. This girl is beautiful.
What would you do at this point? I know that some of you would give up and think that things have gone wrong when in fact the opposite is true. Things are going well and it's time to get her phone number.
How To Meet Women Online Step 4: TAKING IT OFFLINE
My reply:
Hi, Little-miss-spell-checker.
I have to respect someone who knows how to bow out gracefully. You certainly
do seem playful and fun. You're confident too, but not too much--just
enough.
Your body reminds me of a girl I dated in Guadalajara last summer, though
she's almost my height and has no tattoos. When I met her, I told her I
would guess her name and I guessed Lluvia--Spanish for rain. She liked it so
much that she wouldn't tell me her real name and wanted me to call her
Lluvia. I wouldn't tell her my name and she called me Jean Paul. Her name
turned out to be Yanula.
You may have actually lucked out with the whole friends thing, because other
girls are having to treat me to drinks. As a potential friend, I'll
respectfully request that you allow me to pay for my own. There is one
condition: You have conceded and have bowed out, so please don't try to
seduce me, as petite girls have been known to be my weakness. Hands off the
merchandise.
I'm a busy guy, and one of the reasons I don't like this online stuff is
that e-mailing back and forth takes too much time. Let's talk like real
people do. What's your phone number and the best time to reach you? When I
call you though, you must sound excited and happy to hear from me--part of
the deal.
What have I done now? I'm not really a jerk am I? I'm just a cool picky guy. Also, in this e-mail I'm hinting that she's slowly starting to win me over. She has worked for it and only now does she deserve to be rewarded. A woman's beauty alone is not enough to win me over. She must win me over with her personality. And when she has at least made an attempt at that, then you must reward her.
Also, I have restated that I'm used to dating beautiful women. Her beauty is nothing to me; it's merely the price of admission. I made sure to let her know that I'm a busy guy, not some loser who has a lot of time on his hands. Important people don't have time to waste. At the end of the e-mail I instruct her as to what I expect from her when I see her: she must sound excited and happy to hear from me. I'm a confident man and I know what I want. I'm not afraid to tell a beautiful woman what I expect from her. Notice, though, that there really is no jerk in this e-mail, just a confident guy who knows what he wants.
Model's reply:
I can do excited. I can even go a little further, and admit that my excitement is genuine. I am sure you are not only painfully aware of the shortage of intelligent and beautiful woman, but of the shortage of intelligent (I've given up on hot) men- hence my excitement. Of course I mean in the friend sense, in the case of you.
I will do my best not to seduce, but take no responsibility for "clicking" personalities, and you wanting to throw my tiny self around hahaha. Ok, enough of that.
My number is xxx-xxx-xxxx I live on the east side. My schedule is open right now, so as long as the call is placed after 12 pm (I stay up fairly late), I can be reached.
When I called her I busted on her for not sounding happy and excited and told her that things weren't going to work out. She was quick to tell me that she was, in fact, happy and excited. We spoke for a few minutes and I made sure to playfully tease her and convey to her that I'm surrounded by hot women and I'm looking for a hottie with half a brain. We scheduled a meeting for Monday night, and I tell her I have plans for the weekend. She tells me that she must warn me: she normally intimidates guys because of all the attention she gets in public places. I tell her that I'm used to being with women who generate a lot of attention for themselves, and that she need not worry about me.
Due to a change in my schedule, I was not able to meet her on Monday, and I called her to reschedule for Tuesday night. She agreed. We spoke on the phone for about 10 minutes. I was making her laugh, and several times, the forceful inhale after the laugh made her snort, and I busted her on that.
Before our Tuesday meeting, we exchanged a few more e-mails and I told her that I was actually surprised by how intelligent and sophisticated she seemed on the phone, and that I hoped it wasn't a fluke and she was really that interesting in person. She wrote back something like: "Way to lay on the pressure!" and how my expectations of her were too high and that I'd likely be disappointed because of it. Then I replied with a very short e-mail saying that she's a funny girl and that, "I'm sure both of us are going to have a great time on Tuesday."
We met that Tuesday. It's VERY important that you come off as a confident guy in person. It would be very bizarre for her if you seemed wimpy and weak in person. We met more times after that, but that's really not related to this article. So we'll stop here for now.
If you understand the principles behind the techniques I used to meet and date this model, you'll not only be able to do the same online, but offline in the real world as well.
I didn't invent the online techniques I used with the model and other attractive women. Other guys figured things out before me and I just learned and applied the things they'd figured out on their own. If you are interested in online dating and want to learn more, visit Insider Internet Dating. Dave M, the creator of Insider Internet Dating, has figured out some very interesting things.
